I’m embarrassed to confess I used fictional examples for women and general culture to describe men. Let me correct myself by being specific. The best example of the above mentioned female is Rachel Sterne. Though I can’t comment on her availability, @rachelsterne is the paragon of 21st century femininity and the Princess Leia of NYC’s tech universe. If you are a man messaging a woman on OkCupid, show some respect and imagine you’re messaging her.